Bitter Fact: Most of the parents fail to understand their kids

A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves. ~Banksy

Some of you might find it Straight from the shoulder, but parenting is not only about providing shelter, food, clothes, and education. It’s vitally important to know and understand your child as a person.

It’s a matter of great concern that a child will prefer to share his problems with friends rather than his parents. That’s not a good sign. It clearly shows that you, as a parent failing in creating a bond with your kids.

No doubt, parents are very caring towards us, but little do they realize that it is not helping us anymore.

Why so?

One of the biggest reasons is that parents are not able to adapt themselves to evolving world. I’m not saying all the parents are the same, but most don’t want to change. Either it’s about defining boundaries or making our own decisions. There are many things our parents find, like Chinese arithmetic.

Let’s start with education.

Look at him. He is doing so well, and you, I don’t understand, what are you up to?

With this attitude, you’re not going to achieve anything in your life.

Opting this subject is complete nonsense. You have no future with this.

I’m pretty sure almost every one of us grew up listening same dialogues.

According to my understanding, “Education” is the keystone of one’s life. But unfortunately, our parents don’t prefer our interests and choices. They always kept saying, if he can do this, why can’t you?

We are providing you with all the facilities, and you are good-for-nothing.

Why don’t they understand or do not want to accept that everyones’ intellectual capacity is different?

Another unrealistic thing I grew up listening to or I can say experiencing, “ smart kids automatically belong to the science and technology field.” And I was like, what the crap it is?

Isn’t it should be a child’s choice?

Why it’s hard to understand that pursuing a career of personal interest can automatically lead to success and happiness?

We understand that as a parent, you want nothing but the best for your kids. But manipulation and emotional blackmailing is not the right way.

Instead, try to understand the intellectuality and interest of your kid. Stop forcing your child to do a desk job for the sake of earning more money or a secure future while he can touch the sky.

Being different is not being out of sorts. Difference makes us unique. We all have our roles. Allow your kids to express their dreams and creativity. And most importantly, he is capable of doing what he dreamed of and be happy.

The next thing is the trust issue.

Most parents don’t trust their kids. Whether it’s about choosing a career or taking any important decision in life, they always prefer others’ opinions. So, everything from education to marriage is decided by them or their so-called well-wishers.

They never realize this behavior lowers the confidence of children, nor do they care about it. And, when one tries to speak up, emotional blackmailing turns everything in their favor. That’s not right.

They do need to understand that their choices can be wrong as well. Giving a chance to choose a career or life partner is not a big deal, and there is nothing wrong with it.

But, wait a minute, how will they face the so-called society. What will relatives say?

Who are these people? Are they for real? And why are they interested in someone else’s life? Why are these people more important than ones’ children?

Well, I never find out the answers(please do let me know if you know). But, it’s high time to understand that for a child, it’s really heartbreaking. Focusing more on society rather than on your child’s dream, mind my words, you are killing their happiness just because of log kya kahenge.

Coming up next, Mental health and anxiety.

For most parents, being depressed is nothing more than being sad.

She is depressed because her mother scolds her.

He is depressed because he scored less.

All of his anxiety is because of his lifestyle. I asked him to wake up early, but Ye Kaha Sunta Hai Hamari.

Why are you overreacting? Just sleep it off.

We lived a tough life, and you have everything. Still, you are having trouble? God knows what kids these days are up to.

Stop all this. Don’t compare everything with your time. Things have changed a lot. Stop addressing your childs’ extreme emotional behavior as Bakwass or Tantrum.

Dear parents, please understand that mental health is a real thing. Take some time out to understand the emotional behavior of your child without thinking about agar logo ko pata chala to vo kya kahenge. Sit with them, listen to them patiently. Your support is all they are required to overcome this situation.

Well, in a nutshell, it’s important to build a trust with your children. Allow the child to be an individual in their own right. Believe in their dreams and intellectuality. If you really want them to fly, first, you need to allow them to spread their wings.

Stop comparing. It hurts a lot.

Try to be their friend. Scold them when necessary but also give them a chance to put their point.

Try to adapt yourself with the changing time and circumstances. Let your child breathe in today’s fresh air.